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Most of you would be familiar with this trend. You make some great friends at work and develop this fantastic sense of camaraderie with them when one of them decides to leave and go on to another job. You have a tearful farewell party for them and sign their goodbye card with an endearing message that ends with something like “I hope we keep in touch.” They leave and then you never hear or speak with them again.

There are plenty of excuses why keeping in touch does not happen. Fast-paced living makes it difficult to reach out to those outside of our immediate lives. Often, I feel like I don’t have enough time for my family or time just to be alone with myself. And as a day rushes by, even if I was deliberate enough to include checking up on people on my daily calendar, the task gets pushed back until weeks have gone by. Once enough time has elapsed, the excuse then becomes that it would be too embarrassing to contact them out of the blue, since you have previously been so rude for not keeping in touch with them regularly. Of course every now and then the fond parting words are just polite formalities, as you might be dealing with somebody that you genuinely do not care to keep in touch with—but why be so cynical?

If this pattern sounds familiar, I encourage you to aggressively step out of it. When you say “keep in touch,” really do mean it. Your relationships are VITAL. And in this day and age, there are countless ways to keep your network alive. For some, I have them on my LinkedIn network. Others, I am able to keep tabs on with Twitter. Those closest to me, I make sure to call every once in a while. For many, it’s just a holiday card to let them know annually that they are still on my radar. You never know when a relationship will come in handy, and it is good to practice keeping your friendships alive.

And is it really so bad if you neglect somebody for a long time before reaching out to them? Whenever an old friend calls me out of the blue—even if it is only to ask me a favor–I am invariably elated to be back in touch with them. Why shouldn’t I then hope and anticipate that it would be the same if I allow years to pass before I take initiative? The person on the other end failed as equally as I did, as they did not keep in touch either. So why continue to punish them by maintaining your own silence. Life is too short not to endear the good relationships we are fortunate enough to have. Keep your friendships alive. Keep in touch.

Submitted by Craig Houston, The Careerguyd for the August 2008 Talent Buzz blog contest.

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  • Posted on: Monday, August 25th, 2008